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Hello and welcome back to another episode of the rebel soul podcast. And that might be the last time that I get to say that if you didn't hear the news, I am changing the name of the podcast and the next episode should be under the new one. And actually I've made a small tweak since actually announcing it so the official new name of the podcast is going to be called the business of being authentically you with Lauren CSGO. So I'm so excited for that. I am actually back in Mexico. I'm coming at you from Sayulita. I'm actually looking out side right now I'm staring at this beautiful jungle view. It just lights me up in I feel so much gratitude and it just really puts me in such an inspired mode. I feel like my soul is so happy here that it speaks through me and it just is so great to be back. However, they seem to be doing some construction next door so if you hear some sounds, it's because it's Mexico and that's the way it is. So we're gonna roll with it. I am excited to bring you this episode. And to be completely honest and of course every single episode just comes with the truth serum all these truth, truth bombs. It's been really hard for me to sit down and actually record an episode for for you guys. It's been probably about two weeks since I recorded one and I have been in a transition stage and expanding stage evolving so fast that it's really been hard for me to put language to it. And so this is really my first attempt. And as universe would have it right as we're in it, through this experience was able to really see so clearly the process there's actually a process. And so because of this experience, I'm actually sharing with you guys for the very first time this brand new process that I'm so excited. So it's been interesting I was talking to my bestie the other day so I've been staying in San Diego for two and a half months I was back in San Diego mostly staying with my parents visiting friends just doing the whole you know, family life back there. And I'm now back in Sayulita and it was nice to be back and to see my friends and family and spend time with them. But to be honest, it was a really kind of rough stage in my life where I was going through just doing a lot of deep work and of course as the universe would have it being back home I was put in situations where all of those deep core beliefs that have been holding me back came to the surface so I was able to remove them. And now that I'm back in Sayulita after two and a half months, I'm back to the same place that I was but I feel like a completely different person. Because I've had a shift in my energy and a shift in the way I see see myself and it's just a more embodied version of my truth. So I'm chatting with my best friend and she's asking me like, how are you feeling? And I was just like, it feels good. I'm just I'm just acclimating and I was talking about how I haven't quite decided what I'm going to do my podcasts on and I'm just trying to like find my feet. And this vision of Mount Everest came up. And the analogy of you know, when you have when you climb Mount Everest, there's actually like certain base camps that you have to go to and out these base camps you stay for a certain amount of time, so that you're able to acclimate that you can actually get to a to a place where you're able to continue the rest of the journey. And I don't I haven't researched it but I'm guessing that most people are no one has been able to just to start at the bottom of Mount Everest and go all the way up. It's actually part of the journey and part of it is these base camps where you stop at New, get integrated and your body adjusts in. You can expand to hold more oxygen to expand what's going to happen on this journey. And that's really what it felt like last week for me and now that I've kind of have done you know, got back my feet and I'm like feeling very comfortable. I am able to see the contrast I'm able to see I have a little bit of space to really have the clarity of like looking back down and being like, Oh, I see this all makes sense. Right. And I think that's what's happening when and I know you are on this journey to become the person that you're meant to be and it's a long it's a big dreams that we all have, right it doesn't happen overnight. We actually how we create how we create the results that we want or how we do these big ass scary dreams is actually by becoming the person that can then do it right and that's the journey that I've been on and I've been on this journey for many many years but what you guys maybe have been seeing or maybe haven't realizing, but in the last year, there's been all of these small little shifts and transformations in my business happening. And really it's been happening since January. And if you've been following me for a while you guys know that I was me and Jen Navarro. We had a podcast we had a mastermind together. And after I decided to we decided to go our separate ways and do my do my own thing, which was you know, to me the the obvious thing was to just keep on going with sales and business and so I went all in I created this amazing offer called Hell yes offers which I actually just took myself through. It was so good. I bring him love that offer. And it was great. However, there was when I was getting really well I was doing that when I was doing it. There was this knowing inside of me that I wasn't really meant to be doing that, that there was something else that my energy really wanted to be at where I passion really wanted to be at and so when I finally got honest with myself, I realized that what I really really want to be focusing my energy on and helping people with is what I call the embodiment technique, which is a tool that I created to help people really go from transformation to an embodiment and we'll talk a little bit more about what embodiment is but all this this long story short is for two and a half years I've been working on this technique, this process that I've been taking my clients through because I had coaching models or coaching tools that I was using are using, but they felt limited they only really addressed the brain and as I was coaching, you know myself and lots of clients and hundreds of clients, I realized that there was pieces missing so over time I created my own framework that incorporates not only the mind, but also takes into account to us, our soul consciousness which is really our intuition. Our source. It's the non physical part of us and the Montt, non physical part of us is the main part of us. So a lot of the coaching tools and a lot of the tools that we've been using with are actually meant for our brain and they don't incorporate all of us right the embodiment of our truth and really the emotions, and I've seen it it's the emotions that really are keeping people stuck. So I created this tool that helps you embody your truth. It helps you take what you know to be true to who you are the real you and you become this person you see yourself as this person. You don't just want to believe you are this person, but you actually become the Vibrational Manifestation of this person. And it allows you to hold to let go of the shit holding you back and really get you into that confidence that you're able to do what you're meant to do. This tool shifts you out of resistance and helps you taps you into feeling good at any moment. So that you don't have to wait to feel good until you have the results but your worthiness you're embodying this of worthiness is right now and feeling good as right now and it gets you out of imposter syndrome into action. One of my clients I was talking to her yesterday and we were talking she's been working with she's actually been with me for many years and has seen many iterations of this process. And she was saying how like the embodiment technique in this iteration really helped her put her emotions in the driver's seat and she does not like that right like a lot of people are scared of their emotions and don't have the language around emotions. so this technique this, what I'm doing what I'm putting out into the world is helping people make sense of their emotions, give them control over their emotions so that they can then create and become everything they meant to be because the thing that's really in our way, is our E motions. So I tell you all of that to just because I want you guys to have some context of what I'm going through and here I am after so I get home from Mexico in July and in July is when it when I really was like okay, I've been holding back this truth I've been holding back the thing I know I'm gonna be doing I should be doing I'm all in and then in August I released the embodiment experiment which was a 30 day experiment, taking people through using this technique for 30 days and the results were holy crap. It's so amazing. So at the end of all of this, I have this tool that I've been basically working on for eight years. Actually, I've been working on it for three and a two and a half years. I've been the person that I became I've been working on for eight years. And now this tool works. This tool works on me it works on other people that I'm like, holy fuck everything that I've been working on everything that I knew that I wanted, that I've been coming. I knew I wanted to become a coach. I knew I wanted to have something that helped transform the world. And now I'm so clear that it's given to me and it's like okay, now it's time to go out and freakin do it. It's time to get this in to millions of people's of hands and just getting to this point. It was like this whole fuck. And that's really what in the last couple of weeks, I've been spinning a little bit in resistance because I felt like I hit an upper limit. I don't know if where you are in your journey of being an entrepreneur. But I know we all go into it because we have this vision of what we know in our soul. We're like Yeah, I know. I'm meant to do this thing and we know it but sometimes we can't quite articulate it. And it's the testing it and the doing it and the contrast that we're able to then articulate it and so here I am. So clear about it. Have it all everything, all the right pieces, everything is perfectly laid in front of me and this is when the rubber hits the road. So this week, I've just been in this upper limit right and really just been in resistance. I've been in all the excuses of course, on top of just being in this place. I literally have been in the transition of moving from San Diego back to Sayulita and it's just been this beautiful, this beautiful storm for me to get right here so that I could teach you what I'm about to teach you because when we are on this path of this journey of becoming our best selves and going after the thing that we that we know we are meant to do a lot of sabotage is gonna come up a lot of shit is gonna get in the way and when we're able to learn how to get out of the resistance and basically learn how to overcome ourselves and trust in our ability to overcome ourselves then it's going to make it so much easier to show up and actually do the work. So what an upper limit promise promise the upper limit problem is and this was really coined by Gay Hendricks and it's basically we all have a certain limit of how much abundance excess love whatever that we think that we are deserving. Right. So think of it almost as like a thermostat, right? So it's something it's what we believe we are worthy of and it's our brains way of sabotaging us from receiving more and seeing ourselves as the person that can hold more of that can have more. So really like the upper limit problem. It's an identity problem and so we don't see ourselves as that person. It doesn't feel real in our body. Right? So there's imposter syndrome. And I think that that's kind of always going along. But then I think in their journey, we'll have these ups and flows and sometimes we'll hit these upper limit upper limit problems. So it's a little bit more of a stage right you we get uncomfortable because we're getting too much success and we're like, oh my gosh, what's going on? And so it's so funny now that I really understand embodiment. Right so what embodiment is is that you see yourself as that person. You show up as that person. It's like you are the physical manifestation of the energy. It's who you see yourself. And now that I know that and I also understand upper limit problems. I feel like embodiment is the antidote to upper limit because it's just the process of learning how to shift into the person that you that you are meant to be at any moment versus the upper limit is when your brain is fighting that so this past week when I got decided Lita and I just had some space, I was really able to see how things have shifted, right. So since I've been back, I feel like a completely different person. And I realized that there are phases that I went through, right there's different phases of going up. And down of acclimating to becoming this person. And that's really what I want to talk about and is how do we navigate this right? So on our journey to success, the more that we become in alignment or the more that we create the actual thing that we want, our brain is going to be like, Oh, this is not safe. This is not safe, right? So there's this constant learning that we have to do of how to overcome ourselves and I've just gotten really good at being so self aware that I'm able to move through it so I'm gonna go over the phases with you because I think you just understanding that there are phases to embodiment of phases of becoming this person and when you understand where you are in the phases, then that is the thing that's gonna make it so that you can navigate them and this is just when it becomes fun because you're you're the one in control Okay, so here are the is the process of embodiment. And there's three different seed phases. So phase one, is you are becoming a student of yourself, right? And this is really an information phase. Right. So this is all about self awareness. And commitment to knowledge. You're being self aware, you're you become the observer of what's going on. Your power is all in your awareness. And when you're able to just be the observer and look at what's going on. You're able to gather information. And that's what this stage is really about an information that things that you like about yourself, or maybe things that you don't like or that aren't working, so also the contrast, but also this stage is about exploring yourself right committing to learning so finding your what I call soul consciousness, so your soul consciousness is where your intuition your inner voice, God sources, that non physical part, learning how to connect to that part of you so that you can actually access your truth. Learning how to follow your desires, right? So just being in this curiosity stage and being like, Oh, what, what do I desire? What do I want? The other thing in this in this phase is that your allow you're using the contrast in triggers to guide you? So whenever you're triggered by something or negative emotion comes up, or you feel contrast? On the opposite side of that is a desire or is trying to tell you something? So instead of looking at at it as something's gone wrong, you're able to use it as more information. This stage is all about being curious for the truth, willing to look at all parts of you in the shadow parts of you, right? So this is just really getting to know yourself and being curious. The thing about this stage is that it feels good, right? So you actually feel really activated in this stage. And in fact, this is where you might feel, you know, inspired or like the hits of motivation, somebody that is maybe going from not self aware or not, hasn't been working on themselves. They are looking for the motivation to help them move forward. This is really that part where you're looking for that right and the other thing I will happen in this phase is that through getting all of this information and through studying and through being curious, not about just about yourself, but then picking topics and then going and learning more about them is that you're going to get more information and through more information, you will then create breakthroughs. So this phase feels fun. It's like you're getting new information you're looking at yourself. This is really sometimes people call this the consumption stage. Right. So you're reading books, you're listening to podcasts, you're taking courses, maybe you're doing master classes. It's a fun phase. It's an important phase is all about the information. But here's the thing is that this phase is not meant to stay in for so long, because the result of staying in this phase is actually impostor syndrome in some upper limit and the reason why that is is because the more information right like you can consume, and you can listen and you can know, but if you just have the information and you're not applying it or you aren't the actual transformation of it, you're going to feel it inside of you. So let me give you an example about this. Right? So we'll just say surfing for a minute. Let's say you wanted to learn how to surf and you can go and read a book about surfing but if you want to show up to the ocean, you're probably not going to know how to surf. It's you have to go out there and it's like this trial and error you get in the water you fail a lot, right there's you have to actually go out there and take the action and through the messiness you actually learn and become that person. So when you just have all the information, information doesn't feel real in your body what actually makes it feel real and you see yourself as that person is the action through it. So if you feel like you're an imposter syndrome, like you have the information, but you just don't feel like that person. It's because you haven't gone to the next phase yet, which is the phase which is phase two, which is committed to doing the work and this is also known as the transformation stage. Okay, so this phase is committed to doing the work no matter what, it's radical self responsibility. This is where it gets messy and it feels hard. Okay, I just want to be really honest with you and that's the whole reason why a lot of people will say they want to change or say they want the results and they have all the information but then they don't say consistent in their actions or actually take their actions is because that what this stage really is, is your willingness to do the work. And what the work looks like is experimenting and learning through wins and failing. Right. So how you actually evolve and how you become somebody is not just by having the successes, but it's also through the failures in the lessons. That's really where it's at. And we can't just conceptualize things and read books and takes classes and think that we are that person, we actually have to create new emotional coding, because it's the actual action and the experience that creates the belief for you so that you actually feel like that person you are coding that you're becoming that person is what feels real in your body. Right. So the action is the thing that makes the new beliefs and the emotion sticks what feels real. This is how you create new patterns. This is also the phase of letting go of breaking patterns of doing things differently so you can create something new new. This is the phase where you're using the tools right so you might be you know, when I say tools, I'm talking like meditation breathwork, the embodiment technique, maybe the model inner voice work and IVF T, right, whatever the tool that you can use are so many different e tapping, right? This is the stage where you're actually doing the tools to shift to do the work. The tools are actually meant to help you go through this phase because if not, you're just wanting to go clinical run back to the safety of the information stays stage. But it's interesting because as I say that the information stage becomes uncomfortable because you get all this information but then you're not yet that person and that's where the imposter syndrome. So it feels uncomfortable. So really, the thing to stay comfortable is to keep on evolving, which is why you have to continue to cycle through all of these three stages all the time and I'll tell you more about it, but it all builds on itself right. So this phase is where you become the person through practice through action through failure years. This is the phase where you just have to be willing to be uncomfortable. You have to be able to change your relationships with feelings. The suffering is optional when you can learn how to cleanly process your pain point cleanly process feelings. A lot of the resistance and a lot of the stuff keeping you stuck just goes away because it's no longer holding you back. Right. So this phase is so this is the make or break phase. If you don't stay in this phase long enough. You're never going to make it to the embodiment you're going to constantly going back and seeing and self sabotage and going back to information and this is why I create my group programs. This is why I create like deep one on one programs. This is why I created the embodiment experiment is to help people not just have the tools, but give them a space to actually do the work. And here's the interesting thing that I was I kind of knew this but it was like really confirmed so as you guys know I'm I work with spiritual entrepreneurs, healers, coaches. And we, in order to create the results we want, there's a certain amount of work right and a lot of us have our own tools. A lot of us actually, no, we're not out there needing the information. It's mostly we need to actually apply what we know. And this is the hardest thing because so many people in the embodiment experiment will going through be like I know I need to do it but I just don't do it. And what was so helpful about the embodiment experiment is that it was spaced actually do the work that you don't want to do as you do it instead of just keep on putting it off and so I'm just seeing the value of really creating containers where people are, it feels safe, and there's a level of accountability and there's a level of like, I'm going to do this because I'm committed to doing this work that I'm able to stick in the space long enough to then see these small little changes shifts and at some point, all of that small little changes hit in one day you wake up and it's like you're the embodiment of it. And that is the third phase, right? So the third phase is embodiment. It's being it's radical self expression. Right? This is when you actually see yourself as your highest truth, right? You see yourself as the person you want to be. Not only do you see yourself as this person, but you're just you take person, you take action as that person, you're not having to think about it. You're not using the tools to then get into it. You're not having to say affirmations to be it. You just are right. It's just you're not overthinking it. It just effort. And this is really when to me and this embodiment stage is is just a deeper level of alignment. It's when you just are it right so the truth of who you are, right your soul consciousness, your beliefs, your identity, your actions. They're all in alignment effortlessly. So you're just really truly this expression of who you are. And it just feels so good. You're tapped into your power. This is where I say you're able to just play with what's possible, right? You're not living in predictability. You're playing with possibility. You're flirting with what's potential. You're able to experience the magic in the miracle miracles and things that are unexpected because you're leaning back and you're trusting. This is when you're a magnet when things are just coming to you there because you are so embodied in who you are. When you are so embodied there's less action that needs to be taken right you're see if you look at people that are creating results without a lot of action. It's because they are deep into their embodiment and when you get really good at what who you're being, there's less doing that you have to do, right and at this stage, there is a higher level of the higher playing field, right? That you're really at your truest form. You're in your truth. You're in your leadership. You know who you are, you know what you do, and you know how to be it. Right? And you might be tested in this space, right? So it might not be all rainbows and daisies, and you might revert back to your old ways. But after doing the old way, you are just like oh wait, that doesn't feel right. That's not mean you're able to snap back into it. Right? You You just know it just feels really easy. And it's who you are. And when I was teaching sales, I was teaching sales through embodiment. And when you are just the embodied version of it, it's like you don't have to effort you don't have to sell you just are and so this is really when it gets good when you just the embodiment of who you are. You just can just show up and take action for the fun of it. And that's the other thing I that's about embodiment that's so vital is that when you are and I think that there's kind of maybe like a sub phase in between two and three, where when you get into this phase where you're embodied and you just feel good. You actually don't need to see the results or the conditions around you become optional, right and how I actually work with myself and my clients is I teach my clients how to live in all three of these stages so that it's not like you have to wait until you have the results to feel embodied but you're able to actually what I call intentionally body, your truth at any moment and shift into it so you can feel it now. And when you feel good now and you feel embodied now and it feels real and you see yourself as that person now, rather than waiting to see the results. That's when things get really good because you're not having to do anything because of the results you're able to do because it feels good. And this is really the deep work that I do with my one on one clients is getting to this place. We're just embodied so they are so tapped into their intuition and their inner voice. They're being led they're just showing it like this is who I am. I know exactly what to do is being they know exactly what to say. It just feels easy. The ideas are coming clients are coming and it's just your business becomes an extension of who you are. Right and that's it's funny because it's like I know I'm making a tweak and I'm not talking about sales as much. But ultimately when you get to state to embodiment, you don't actually need to sell you just need to be yourself and inform and that's when the magic happens. So this has just been it's been a really beautiful couple of months for me as I've been really deep into phase two of the transition and now on the other side. That I've been decided Lita, I feel this embodiment I feel this shift. I feel that things feel lighter and easier and it just is a beautiful place to be. So let's go back to talking about how do you navigate these upper like limits right how do you navigate through these different phases and your upper limits and your like I said imposter syndrome really are mostly in stage one, right? So when you're living too much in stage one and just consuming the information in like, you know, but you're not being that person and doing that person. You're not being that person you're going to feel it. That's where we that's where the upper limit. Now, I mean, that's where the resistance comes in. Now, the more that you're in phase one, and you're in phase two, and you start to be in phase three, and you actually feel like that person, that's when your upper limit might come because you're like, oh wait, I'm getting close to being this person. I feel it, right. So it just, you have to keep on going back to each level and the more that you're able to shift there each level it falls apart because the antidote to the upper limit is the embodiment and embodiment at any moment. You can stop and practice embodiment in this moment, which is just shifting the resistance in your body and feeling good now. And that's always available to all of us. I just want to remind you guys that and really, it's all about the small shifts over time, right So, you there might be phases where you're in stage two more than you're in stage one, there might be phases where you're in phase three, and things are really going well and then you're like Okay, now, I want to become I want to get to the next level. So you go back to stage one, right? So it's just understanding that there are different phases and that your ability to move through all three of them at any point is really your powers that you're not going to be stuck in when you know that you're going to be moving through all three, three of them and you find acceptance, it helps you move through them even faster. And what I really work on especially in the embodiment experiment, and with my clients is helping people tap into the embodied plays every day, right? So even though you might not be that person yet, you're able to actually practice right so going back to the analogy I made about the Mount Everest and getting acclimated right, it's just training the more that you can hold the vibrations and practice the vibrations and feel them in the in your body, the easier it's going to be to hold them for longer and longer and longer. So what I suggest is that no matter what phase you're in, right and you have to go through all phases, you still have access to feeling good now, right? You still have access to dropping in and going to that place inside of you that is safe. That is that where joy lives. And that's really like one of the things that I teach with the embodiment technique is how to be how to be human and have emotions and how to process the emotions. But then how to shift back into this place of feeling good and that's really the whole point. The more that you can feel good and you know you have the tools to feel good. Even though I've been in the stage too for quite a while. I've also have felt better than I ever had before. And so these stages allow me to hold the duality of feeling good so I can be in the embodiment stage, while I'm also playing in the others in maybe the transformation stage so I'm able to hold the duality of feeling good. And knowing that I'm also going through this transformation. And that's really where my power has come from. And what I really teach my clients is how to hold the duality of emotions so that you're able to continue to take action, even when we're going through these transformations. And we're going through, we're letting go of layers that no longer serve us, right, like, I see this so much where it's like, we want to stop and hold things when things get hard, but the success comes when you can hold the duality and experience the pain and the negativity and of course I'm all about giving ourselves rest and stopping when we need to stop. But learning how to shift fast and get back into action and get back into feeling good and get back into the embodiment place is the thing that actually creates the results that also makes the journey way more fun. So that's the direction I'm going in. I hope that this was helpful for you guys to understand that there are phases and just seeing and knowing that there's phases in housing and having to navigate the the phases is really the work. So if you want to get if let's say you're in phase one, you want to be in phase two, or you're in phase two and you want to be in phase three. This is the work I do with my one on one clients. I now am I have a couple of slots open for my embodied one on one experience experience which is just doing the embodiment work on a very, very deep level so that you can stay in action towards your goals and that you can become this person that you know you're meant to be and you can feel good now not waiting till you have those results but feeling good along the way. So if you enjoyed this episode, please share it. If you're over on Instagram come follow me. I have been posting a lot of cool pictures of me being here in Sayulita I love to to keep up to date there and yeah, I can't wait to next week we're gonna have a whole new vibe. It just feels so appropriate right now to have this new branding coming out because it just this podcast doesn't feel right anymore with the person that I now am and the up level that I've made and the level of embodiment that I am right now this next version just feels so good and I'm so excited to take you guys all along for the ride. So I'm sending you love. If you want more information about ways to work with me, you can go check in the notes below. Please share this please write a review if you enjoy it. And I love you guys. I'll talk to you next week.
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