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CSGO I am excited to be here today is actually a beautiful day in silence to Mexico which is where I am living right now. The summer season is over and we're finally in the perfect weather which is around 80 to 80 degrees during the day and about 66 at night so this is my favorite time of year. But I have to admit that it's a little bit weird living down here because it does not feel like holiday season the way it does when I'm back in San Diego. In the United States. Not that they don't celebrate or they don't decorate but I just there's not a lot of like retail stores or big stores around here. So I have not actually not gone into any mall, any department store anything to see any of the holiday decorations, so it's definitely a new experience but also really amazing to be here and see it from a different cultural point of view and also just to get to experience the weather and the beach and just freakin loving my life down here. It feels really, really good. I feel really settled. So today this podcast feels even better to be recording than any other episode because the last couple of podcasts that I have recorded was while I was really still on kind of on a low rate I was going through some hard shit in my life I was still confused and here I am on the other side of that with the clarity and on my way up. And I showed up in the last two episodes even when I was at a low in my business not only mentally but financially. When I was sitting in a lot of negative emotions, especially around guilt, shame and fear. I was not making offers and my business actually took over a month off of taking offers or even thinking about signing clients and I really had no idea what was happening next. And it was such a difficult time for me. But I did show up on those two episodes because I still knew that I was on the right path. And podcasting is what I love to do. And I also know and the way that I live my life is that my success is inevitable. So it's really about just keeping on going and knowing that was just one piece of my journey. And this I'll be honest you guys to get to this point to record this episode right now. I have sat in resistance for a couple of days, mostly because I'm just realizing that it's a habit you know, creating content and getting it and I just kind of took myself out for a bit so that I was sitting in the resistance but here I am on the other end of it on the upswing in this moment feels so freakin aligned. So I'm feeling good. I'm feeling light. And I just want to remind you guys that the contrast is our friend, right? Like it really sucked some moments going through it and feeling all of the negative emotion. But now that I am here, knowing what I know, having the clarity that I have, and seeing that what is next is even better than I could have imagined it makes it all worth it. And the ups and downs of life is just part of it. And when you can no and when you can have the awareness of being like Oh, I'm just on a down by No, there's going to be an up. That is the thing that's going to keep you going in this like where I am right now is just proof like more proof to me that there really is a higher power out there leading us and that the universe really has my back and it's always supporting me. There's definitely a point in my life where I was that you know, I think my model from you know, maybe like my early 20s And to all the way up until about five or six years ago was I make shit happen and I had this very strong mind and it was very ego driven and very like goal number oriented right and, you know, every place I worked I always got promoted. I was always the best I always and I prided myself on really like having a strong line and making things happen by control. And about three years ago, in my business and in my late at first started my business allowing myself to be led by my inner guidance instead of that mind and now over the last three years have really created what I call the embodiment technique, which is allowing my mind my subconscious and my conscious mind and that part of us that is not physical we can call it a soul God intuition that part of us that is leading us and that is a higher power really work together so that you can be led and with your potential like really be guided because we're all in like infinite beings. And we have unlimited potentials out there. But it's our job to really believe that it's possible for us right so we not only need to get our minds on board, but also our intuition and what I've learned over the last three years with really playing and I'm gonna use word playing with allowing my intuition to lead and taking turns with my mind is that when my intuition ends up leading and I let my intuition derive which by the way, my mind does not like being in the backseat can be a bitch sometimes, but the mind now knows that when the intuition is driving, it may not like the way it drive because it can't see from the backseat where it's going. But the intuition always ends up in a place that is safe. And that is even better than I can imagine. And this is just more evidence that that is really how the world works. And I've started with doing small little things and ended up doing bigger things in my life. One of the bigger things was, you know, listening to my intuition when I was sitting at the beach here and fly Lita and hearing that voice to sell all my things and move and doing that right so now in my business when I am going through things when I feel like I'm stuck when I'm confused. I am now not only allowing my brain to lead but I also have developed a relationship and trust with my intuition and this is really I want this podcast to be kind of behind the scenes of what to do if you feel like you're stuck and not just from a mind point of view because part of it is the mind and habits and overcoming emotions. But the other part is that intuition part and really allowing that to come through because it knows it is leading you and if you can trust that epic shit is going to happen and that's really just what's happening for me and I can't wait to share this what's going on so Okay, so where do we even start here? So if you go back if you have not listened to the last two podcast episodes, I would definitely go back and listen either you can stop this and go listen to those first or you can listen to this and go back. But really those are I go more into detail about what I was going through while I felt stuck in my business. Okay, so long story short, is it really timeline is in September. I really just started to feel resistance and I started feeling stuck. But how that was showing up in my business is that it felt really hard to sign clients and money wasn't coming in as much. And I yeah, this is just like to be completely honest. Like I ran a a challenge. I did the embodiment technique in August and that was amazing. It was such a results. Had a great month and then in September I'm like okay, let's like go to the next level. And that is not what happened and for like seven or eight weeks, I did not sign any clients and it just felt like I was taking action. It was like I felt like I was in the beginning of my business again. I was like what is going on? And in this place, right? So here's here's really like the steps that I went through, right? So from this place of going from, like last year being consistent and having 15,000 or more months all the way up to 50,000 months to this year. Slowly my number is going down and down and down. And me being like what the heck is right and to this point where it's just like I just didn't know so here's the work that I did. First off is I always had this awareness is the most important thing. We have to be present enough to be aware of our feelings and our feelings are always on telling us if we're on the right path or not on the right path. And we know by the way we feel right so over these few months like my feelings
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have not been really good. Like I knew something was going wrong. And I couldn't quite figure it out. And
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so it was my feelings that immediately were telling me like something's wrong. Something's not working. Right like the thing with me and that I really saw during this little down that I went through that I had never seen before. The reason why I was able to see this is because I got coaching. And it's my mind and part of my identity is this like, Oh, I got this. I can make it happen. Like everything is good and just like a lot of positivity. Like I'm a super positive person and I can find the good in everything. But underneath that positivity, I wasn't allowing myself to look at the dark side. I wasn't allowing myself to and I guess I was processing and feelings and feeling them real time. But it was like almost like this like hyper like positivity that I was doing and what I had to stop is is stop and actually look at the shadow side for a minute and realize that we everything is not all rainbows and daisies and this is really the point in the step that I had to admit that I was not okay. And I talked about that. That moment very deeply and Two episodes ago go and it was that one decision and be like I'm not okay, was the catalyst for everything else to shift and for me to get here now. And that was really just such a pivotal point to be able to allow myself that I'm not okay and I think that as somebody who sees myself as very capable and as a leader and as a coach, it's hard for me to admit when I am not okay, and so that's something that I was fighting for weeks. And I remember the week I admitted that I was okay there was like multiple friends that were like and they're both of these friends. are like good friends in both coaching or emotional experts in there as soon as I'm like, I'm not okay, they're like, Thank God like I know you are okay. I was just waiting for me to
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admit it like it was
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very clear that you are not okay. Right. So this is such a huge part sometimes is that we have to admit when something's not working, and that is a whole step in itself. But from here, right, so step two, is then I had to stop. Right? And this is the part where if something's not working, if you're trying and it doesn't feel good, and there's resistance and it's not working, it just means that it's, it's a no, it's not meant to be and the hardest thing that we can do is admit when something's not working, because what it requires us to do is to admit that we were wrong and our brains will go to extreme lengths to create stories that we can save. So we can see a tap attached to needing to be right. And so really, the second step is to stop but to really give ourselves permission to look at it differently and see that maybe there is another way to do it right to like, it's like almost like the surrender place right? So in this state in this second step, what I really gave myself time to do and it's funny because looking back, it's like I was so I was still so trying to control my mind that I did see how powerful this was, but I just at that point I decided to not join masterclass. I stopped my launch. I stopped making offers and, and I talked about this a lot in in episode two weeks ago, or two episodes ago where I was in fear on money like well, what am I going to do? Now that is taking care of itself, which I'll talk about in a moment, but I made some tough decisions that allowed me to then be financially okay so that I could take the break off of my business and really give myself the space I needed to see with so much clarity and with no scarcity and with no like neediness or needing needing it to provide anything so that I can make really solid decisions and really listened to my intuition. So the third thing I did and this is really kind of a new step for me if I would have taught this before I would have missed this step and this is the most important is that you need to be able to find safety in your body and what this really means is giving your central nervous system a rest right so I was because I was in this like and I didn't see it was like so subconscious like fight or flight around money and getting design clients that I was like exhausting to myself because I was always thinking about it. So when I stopped and I admitted that I needed help both of my friends had pointed out that like you don't feel safe in your body right now. Like you need to, like calm yourself and so I took weeks and just gave myself permission to do very, very little and just spent a lot of time just be a part of it. I just like watch TV a little bit just to like decompress and then went in and just was like by myself. And so that was the third thing. The first third step I did to like really get unstuck. And the next thing the fourth thing was that I went back to the basics and this is kind of in the same time period that I was finding safety. I really just went back to the basics of like the simplest things in life and this is really when I started to like let go of like metrics and like numbers and like saw how I attach like my value to like certain like outcomes where I was like, wait, wait, we and this is like right, the whole chase of like, that whole thing we do with like chasing the goals and the external outcomes thinking that's where that happiness is and realizing that no wait, this is not where the happiness is the happiness is is in the simple things the happiness is for feeling safe in this very very moment for feeling gratitude for looking at what we had, right so I had radical gratitude every day like I would just find what I was so abundant for and part of my like lifestyle that I do is I take morning walks on the beach and sunset walks on the beach so it was just so like, even if all like in my like lowest of low times if the only thing that I had to be grateful was that I created this life for me where I can take lots of walks and be on the beach and be community. Then that was like where the gratitude started. And then I started to like really look at my finances and start finding gratitude for the money that I did had and then also did extreme self care and like really looked at like the shame that was coming up and really looked at some of the old stories and just took taking really extra good care of myself extra sleep, lots of exercise, eating healthier. I've also been barely drinking over the last couple of months. So that really helped with this time of just being able to really be with myself. I also in this time had this radical honesty with myself and once again looking at what's not working look in looking at the resistance in my life and my business and you know questioning and around there I did have a lot of resistance around like showing up in some of like the online communities I was in and like comparing myself to other coaches and this need to keep on showing up in social media deselect find clients and this like right this like chasing energy I was doing so I had to like see what I was doing and get really honest with myself and allow myself to let go of the things that weren't that weren't working. And as a result of this, like the way I'm gonna do business and build my business is going to be radically different. And yeah, I'll use social media for fun but I now have other ways that I'm going to build my business that are based on connections and ways that feel more sustainable for me and I will be sharing more of that in another episode but this is just like the small shifts that I got. I just really went back to the basics of what lights me up, right. Okay, so then the fifth thing I did, and once again, this was kind of in the same period time period that I did all of this is that I really gave myself permission to take away timelines and not be like, Oh, I'm gonna do this for a week or I need to figure it out by a month or I just literally took away all the timelines. I was just like, I am not going to even worry about any of it. I allowed myself to stop asking how stop needed to know stop needing to know when right so I just gave myself permission to just allow it to have the right amount of time that it needed to be right instead of like asking the question like, well, when do I start making offers or what offer should I make or what am I going to do next? Like I didn't ask any of those questions. Because I knew my job at that point in what was being guided and my inner voice kept on reminding me it was just just to be just to be just to be so here it is for weeks. I'm literally being led by my inner voice just to be and to be doing these steps these very simple steps to like really heal my inside and what I have gone through and stop needing to know and once again, this like taking the pressure off, you know the goal numbers or you know, needing to and I really this really I really saw this so clearly that I had been getting so much of my joy and my identity and what I thought made me happy from like the money and then metrics. And when that number started going down, I really questioned myself and so what I found at this point where I was like literally at the lowest I really found love for myself and I found belief for myself and I found like the happiness that I was searching for the whole time that I had all the metrics and that I was like, quote unquote, feeling successful, right. So really what this allowed me to do is just treat this like a really like shakable confidence and unshakable happiness that is from really truly built with it from within of knowing that I'm enough right now and that I was good enough and that I could feel really really good about myself before I started making money again or before without meeting like evidence in my life and really felt that purpose and that happiness and that joy, but just really the simple things in my life with just journaling with the beach walks with really going, just giving myself lots of space to be and so the fifth thing that I did is also kind of based on that where I just focused my energy on my desires and having fun, right so I increased listening to music. I was dancing all the time. I was doing some painting and crafting. That's what I started doing. If you guys follow my stories, you'll see that I've been collecting shells and doing shell AR and just really tapping into the things I did when I was a little girl right blowing the bubbles, going out at nighttime and listening to my favorite bands with buying bottles, allowing myself to really immerse myself in the community down here and so I Lita I have oh my gosh, like I get just chills thinking about the people that I've met and like the strong community I have here and it was just so great to Like, I literally stopped thinking of work for a while you guys it was so amazing and just to go and just be and not talk about work and have friendships that were based in other things. And so it was really just beautiful. And I just asked myself like, what do I want what is desire? And from there from this place of doing all of those things? It shifted inside of me and first started with my feelings I started feeling better first my only goal for those weeks was to feel good, to feel good to feel good to feel good and it compounded on each other on itself. And from there then I felt inspired. Then from there it was not blocked and heard very clearly from my inner voice and one day, it was like I was just like okay, I have it I'm ready and it came through and all of it within like four to five days was very clear as for as to what is once again my purpose never ever change and what I meant to do is always say the same but what that looks like and how I run my business and what matters in my life and the values all shifted and now it's like so cliche to her. And it's better than I can imagine like literally I cannot I'm not going to spill the beans yet. I'm not quite ready and I'll tell you more about that. But I cannot wait to share this because I'm like, Holy fuck, and wonder why all of this happened because now I get to do something that combines even more of my loves, like I thought. But, you know, coaching and teaching, and you know, talking about money in sales are all the things but I'm a creative person. I love gathering people. I love traveling. There's so many other things in this new offer and this new direction of my business is bringing in even more of my zone of genius in my passions an all in one and I'm like holy crap, I can't even believe that this is even an option to do this. Right. And this is what I want for you guys. And this is as a result of getting out of my own way getting unstuck from my brain and allowing my my inner guidance, my intuition, my inner voice to guide and from here, I'm just like, oh my gosh, what is next? I can't even I can't even believe it. And it's interesting because, you know, in the past I would think like I would my mind would need to know like, when is my next offer going out? Like what am I going to say? What am I going to do? And when I did these steps and then allowed it to come through it all became very clear. I didn't have to ask any of the questions because it came clear at the right time. And even I never had to be like Oh, what am I what am I gonna start sending clients at one point, maybe I was, but now it was just like, Oh, I know. It's ready to start. I'm ready to start signing clients because guess what? Clients started showing up. You guys literally I have not made any offers and was just saying, Oh yeah, I'm not signing clients. My website wasn't even working. And somebody found me sent me a message was like, Hey, do you do constant calls? We got on a call and she's like, I'm ready. So I was like, okay, cool. I'm ready. And that's when I knew I was ready to start sending clients and really go back into my business. It's because the universe, just put it inside and put it right in front of me. They're like, Here you go. And since then, I've had other people ask about work me people are coming from out the woodwork networks. People are finding old posts with like, offers for calls and coming out. So it's like, I now see from this point, I'm like, Oh, I get it. I get it. I get it. Okay universe, thank you for the reminder because if it's not working, if it doesn't feel right, it's not. When it's working. You will know it just works. It shows up and your job is to is to be able to let go and allow the in the space for the right thing to happen instead of trying harder. And that is like this is just a perfect example of when you really can trust your inner guidance. Something much better is going to happen and it's going to it's going to happen if it's meant for you. It will happen and there's not all of the effort that needs to happen. It's getting in the alignment. It's getting doing the work to to being the embodiment of being that person and to have fun and to focus on feeling good and in feeling good and letting go of all of the like drumline drama. It just happened without even having to try. So if you're in confusion, you're trying hard. I hope that these steps are helping you see that there is another way to do it. And now I'm ready. I am ready. And I know because it feels right. It feels it in my body. And for many weeks I had stopped doing like my quote I saw I have a technique called the embodiment technique. And it's like work you know, it's like mindset worker you know, every time every day I would fit in and anchor into my goals. And I stopped doing it for a while because I stopped trying and now that I've come back to my to my rituals that work for me and this embodiment work, there's this whole this whole like, oh, this hits different. I see it because I had to go through that deep transformation work the integration of what I know and really become that person and now when I do it, it's like feels different and you once can know it's working you know what's right you know, the embodiment of it by the way that it feels. And as a result of all of this all of this work and then the embodiment work and is that I just feel unshakable. I feel more confident than ever. I feel like I'm a magnet for all my desires right now. Like clients are coming money's coming. It's just like yes, yes, yes. It's like this is what I know. And I feel more confident in my ability to coach to to lead people through this after going through this. So here are just a few takeaways that I want to leave you with and this you know, just maybe like inspiration or just seed planting for you but just want to remind you that we are always being guided by our feelings. We know we're in the right path. We know it's right, by the way it feels and if it doesn't feel good, then it's not working and go and do these steps I just shared with you and it can be sometimes a smaller version of them. It just might be a small shift. And when we can allow ourselves to get out of our mind and really go into the inner guidance and the inner guidance is guiding you through feelings. It's your going to be led to places that your mind would not even know exist. Another thing is really allowing your desires to lead you. Your desires are safe. Your desires are your instruction from the universe. They're there for you as little like I like to think of you know the fairy tale The Gingerbread Man was Hansel and Gretel and they leave like the little like bread clump crumbs. That's what desires are. It's following those bread crumbs. So the thing that's meant for you that's how I got here. And just knowing in the I guess so here's the big beliefs right. So if you look at identity work and beliefs like the the underlying beliefs that have really got me through this, and I really have the first one is a newer one, which is I'm safe. And just knowing that I'm safe and really finding the safety in it. And then the other two have been serving me since I started as an entrepreneur and it's I believe these like I know that the sun is gonna rise tomorrow, which is I know how to make money no matter what, and that my success is inevitable. And so really leaning back on these, not only just mindset but the being the embodiment of it and showing up as this allowed me to have this really low without freaking out because I knew that there was going to be a it was not comfortable. I was not sure but I always knew that I was going to be okay. And that's what really allowed me to go through it a little bit more gracefully and even on some levels of really fine joy and it was crazy. Because they're really in a really were some moments and some days, actually a lot of them where I was confused or it was hard. But I also just felt so good. And that was really the first time that I was able to go through such a low and this is probably one of the lowest, the scariest places I've been in my life. Maybe all together if not in a while. Another time I went through something like this, but it was probably scarier because I didn't have the tools were what this time it showed me because I now trust myself with the ups and downs and I trust my inner voice that I'm able to have grace of myself while I'm going through it. So it doesn't make it as heavy. It doesn't make it as hard and I'm actually able to enjoy it a little bit and find the joy in it. So remembering that there's always going to be ups and downs but your job is to feel okay through it all. So those are just the few little takeaways. And I want to leave you guys with a little announcement. I actually have two things for you guys. And the first one is about the podcast name now. I've been talking about it for a while about changing the podcast to the business of being authentically you with Lauren CSGO but that was for I had this whole shift and now in a different place of embodiment and have more clarity and just shifting my the way I'm doing business a little bit so I am actually changing the name and that's another reason why it probably didn't work out because it was right it was right as I was about to launch it that all of this shit just like fell you know just like fell apart. And so the new podcast is going to be called inspiring shit with Lauren CSGO and that will be launching in the next few weeks but until then, I'm gonna be showing up under this name, but that just feels like a fucking hell yes, that's exactly what it is. It feels so right. I'm so excited. It's gonna be similar to what I've been doing but a little bit more just more awesome. Let's just be honest. And then the second announcement is that I will be dropping my new offer. I'm calling this hell Fucking yes offer because it's that good. It will be dropping later this week, if not the beginning of next week, but very, very soon. I'm working on it right now. And I have to say that I have never sat on an offer the way that I have sat on an off this offer. Like I've known I was gonna do this for like maybe three weeks now about three weeks now. And normally I'm like, Okay, let's go let's do it. But this time, my inner guidance really led me to embody it deeper and get really even more clear. So this just feels even more exciting to bring out to the world because it's just even more like a like a see like an incubator, right? It's like even more ready and like I'm even more ready to put it out. So get ready for that. But if you know that you want to work with me, I am now officially making offers to work with me one on one so if you know you want to work with me this year this either starting now or coming up in 2020 2023 Oh my gosh, we're so close. Hit me up, get on my calendar, reach out. Get book a console call with me. For right now from today. Until I watch this offer. I'm going to create a custom offer for whoever wants to work with me. I will create something that's epic just for you and your needs. So if you've been thinking about wanting to work with me, this is the perfect time I will create something like let's figure it out we'll work together. I will also tell you about my new offer too if you want to hear about it if you get on a call with me in the next week. But after that I will be having this next new offer that's going to be so amazing. And I am just ready I am ready to make 2023 of the best here yet. If you know you want to work with me, if you've been thinking about working with me, now is the time we're gonna get results together. Next Level results. I'm talking complete transformation. Doing hard, crazy things, changing your identity, changing your habits and creating permanent change so that you look back and in three months you're like who the hell have I become? I just had that experience with myself. It was just maybe under a month and a half that I really maybe two months and I am blown away and I cannot wait to lead you through this as well. So thank you so much for listening. If you enjoy this podcast, please share, make sure that you are subscribed. If you want to share it tag me on Instagram or if you just want to tell me your thoughts about it. I love getting your messages, please let me know. It really would mean the world to me if you share this with your friends. If you tell people if you read a review, I spend a lot of time on these episodes and really want to get this out into as many people's hands as I can and I appreciate you sharing. Okay, until next time, the next episode is going to be a great one because I will be dropping my offer and that one and until then, if you want to find out can we get out on holidays? Okay, sending love a bye
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